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Brendan was absolutely loved & adored. His dad, his dad’s best friend Aaron & Bre were frogging in Lake Verret (Pierre Part, LA) when Aaron’s boat hit a dock. Brendan dove in the water & he and his dad called 911 & did CPR. Aaron passed away that night from internal injuries. Then, three years later Brendan’s very best friend, Jestin accidentally shot himself at a friend’s apartment. Brendan was there and held Jestin until the ambulance arrived. Jestin passed in August of 2020. Brendan suffered with severe PTSD and would frequently refuse counseling/ treatment. We finally got him to agree to go to a program in South Florida named The Refuge. We thought this place was the ideal solution but it was anything but… I’ve written details under the facility name on google. They released Brendan despite us providing legal paperwork that should have prevented his release without his father & my permission and released him without his antidepressants. He felt abandoned when this happened & refused to go into another mental health facility. He took his vehicle, found a gun, dismantled his cell phone and left our hometown. We tried to find him, have his phone pinged, everything you can imagine. His PTSD caused him to be paranoid & erratic at times other times he seemed somewhat sad but normal. Tomorrow would have been my kind, handsome son’s 24th birthday. Life will never be okay without our Brendan. He genuinely had the most contagious laugh & biggest heart. I’m lucky to have had him for 19 years and to be his Mom. The Refuge and the Hardy police department made many missteps in the handling of my mentally ill son. Yes, there’s so much more to say about Brendan’s last couple of weeks. Mental health care or the lack thereof continues to have devastating affects on our youth & young adults.
Our world is and will continue to be shattered without our Brendan-my loving son, brother & best friend to so many.
I’m so deeply sorry for the unimaginable pain your family has endured and for the loss of your beautiful son, Brendan. Thank you for sharing his story and the love, loyalty, and courage he showed throughout his life—qualities that are so clear in everything you’ve written. No parent should ever have to walk the path you’ve been forced to walk, and it’s heartbreaking to hear how many burdens Brendan carried and how hard you fought to get him the help he deserved.
Your words honor him in the most powerful way—by showing who he truly was, not just how his life ended. The world should know about his kindness, his bravery, his humor, and the huge heart he shared with the people he loved. I hope you feel surrounded by support as you face his 24th birthday, and I hope you always hold close the love you shared and the memories that will always belong to you.
Thank you for speaking out about mental health and the gaps that still exist. Your voice matters, and Brendan’s story matters.
Sending you and your family strength, compassion, and my deepest condolences.